Sexual Orientation

[terrancew_hod]

That was like 4 years ago I think that I figured out that I was straight and if it wasn't for my best friend helping me understand then I'd probably still be confused.

 

Well you've definitely confused me with your post. The beauty of youth I guess; as long as you're not really repressing feelings for other's sake. I'd hate for you to turn 50 and say "Oops. I guess I really did kind of like guys too."

 

As long as the boat stays afloat,

 

Terry

[Dailey Enterprizes]

^ My best friend was a girl, if that helps? Lol, I'm sorry that I confused you.

[Moose]

RE: Coming out day.

 

I was considering coming out to my cousins on Facebook yesterday, but didn't. My extended family is the last group i really want to tell but haven't. (well besides work, but the whole dealing with construction makes that odd).

 

I assume the family would be fine. Afterall, my uncle's sister and her partner sometimes come to gatherings and everyone is ok. I have told one aunt, but that is it. I just don't know how to do it. But i better get my act together if i want to bring my bf to holiday stuff this year.

[terrancew_hod]

^A long time ago I took a boyfriend to thanksgiving dinner. Actually it went pretty well... although I had left the room and when I came back they were trying to feed him chitterlings... the whole family stopped to watch him... poor guy almost threw up... I ran in and grabbed the plate from him and told my family "OOH! Ya'll are evil!"

 

P.S. for those that don't know, chitterlings are boiled pig intestines.

 

Terry "Yeah my family's country as hell" Weaver

[cobra_roll06]

^ Wow, I think you have just put the fear of "meeting the parents" back into everyone!

[odene497]

Coming out to everyone has been on my mind for a while. I've had so much fun and everything has been so much more relaxed with the four friends that know I'm gay. I can have fun and not have to worry about slipping. It's been half a year since I first came out, and I'm so much more comfortable with myself, and so much less caring of what others might have to say about me. And I've been thinking how bad I want a boyfriend.

 

SO, I figure, I'm not fat, but could stand to lose 15 pounds. I'll do that, wait until I'm feelin' all good about myself, and from then on I'm going to live with nothing to hide. If someone asks "Are you gay?" I'll say, "Yup". I'm getting excited.

 

 

-Nick

[christianscoasters]

^Yeah that's like me. I won't parade around, but if someone asks me, I'll be truthful.

[RCFreak]

^^ That's how I started (after moving accross the country to Ohio at 17) and now there's pictures of me deep throating things on the internet

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A churro you sick bastards!

[christianscoasters]

Is it just me, or has the "Post your sexual orientation" thread turned into "The official 'discuss your gayness thread"?

[odene497]

^Having people just pop in to say GAY! or STRAIGHT! would be kind of plain. It's a good thread to talk about the subject.

[Nrthwnd]

^ And we all know what straight peeps talk about, right?

 

[christianscoasters]

^

 

I've noticed that there's a lot more gay people now then there was even 20 years ago. Does anyone know why?

[odene497]

^Because twenty years ago people were to afraid to say anything about it? I wonder if there's something with today's society that causes people to be gay, or if there's the same amount of gay people now as there always has been. If there is a cause, it happens when your young because I can think back on things I've done when I was little that really lean towards being gay. People just used to be hung and stuff for it. More gays or not, people need to understand that there are no choices in sexual orientation.

 

 

-Nick

[christianscoasters]

^I agree. What helped me come out was online-socializing and texting. This way I can tell people without telling it to their face. It made it much easier for me. So I think as much as society is getting worse about putting people down, it's getting easier due to technology. This is just my personal opinion.

[odene497]

I don't think society is getting worse about putting people down. I mean, in some ways. I really think racism is picking back up again. In a perfect world differences wouldn't matter, but I think so many people just can't handle it. I think, however, that being gay is getting less and less of a big deal. People will start realizing it's not cool to make fun of gay people.

[christianscoasters]

^Yeah lol. When I was pretending to be straight, I had one best friend. That's it. That's because I wasn't being who I really was. But when I moved to a new city, new school, new people, I became open and now I have about 11+ best friends. And yes, BEST friends! Being myself rocks, and looking back at lies is just hard to do. When I tell people I'm gay, they usually give me high-fives ! And most of the time, there like, "Oh, don't worry! I have LOTS of gay friends!"

[odene497]

^It's surprising really how when you tell someone they're like dude that's fine be proud of who you are. And yeah, I feel like I have so many more friends too. I'm so much more outgoing towards people and it's nice just to have fun and not care if people think badly of you.

 

I think we've taken over this thread.lol.

 

 

-Nick

[FunkyBird]

I truly don't know right now what I am and It really doesn't bother me. But all of the girls (and guys) at my school are so boring and uninteresting but maybe I'm just picky. Buy at my age i shouldn't be concerned about it at all.

[Nrthwnd]

^

 

Really. Take your time. Things will happen when they happen.

 

And then you'll be totally scared, no matter which direction you take, lol!

 

Coming out, or falling for girls is all the same really - scary and just as intimidating as it can be, emotionally especially.

 

I came out just before I turned 16! Now, how illegal was that, huh?

 

I also think the internet and faster world connecting has ooomphed the visibility of gay peoples everywhere, no matter where they live and/or work.

 

And bad still follows good, but nowadays, we just hear and see about it faster than we used to. Unfortunately, still.

 

But hang in there.

 

And enjoy your age now.

 

[jynx242]

^ I had a response in mind, but couldn't have put it better! AMEN Brother! (or sister depending....)

 

Love ya!

 

David

[BiCoastal Kid]

I don't think society is getting worse about putting people down. I mean, in some ways. I really think racism is picking back up again. In a perfect world differences wouldn't matter, but I think so many people just can't handle it. I think, however, that being gay is getting less and less of a big deal. People will start realizing it's not cool to make fun of gay people.

 

 

Societal problems will continue to be problems as long as people keep saying that they've ended. You look at racism, after the civil rights movement everyone was all "yay, minorities have rights, now we're over racism." But was it really that big of a victory? Sure you had the legal rights, but racist people were still racist. Until you change the people, changing the laws is barely worth it. The problem is that you are trying to go against the human instinct to influence and control, so when you ask for people to live in harmony people just try to get everybody into their idea of harmony instead of actually respecting others' positions.

[christianscoasters]

^I think that society is against it because they don't even know about it.

 

They don't know:

 

-It ain't a choice

-Just because two gay people are around each other, it doesn't mean that

they're together

-We don't look at every guy we see

-We don't have crushes on everyone (Everyone at school thinks we do)

-We ain't gonna do anything to them, so what's they're to be afraid of?!?!

 

Take this for instance. I really, really liked this guy a lot. But he was straight. He found out I was gay, and he wouldn't even come within three feet of me. He was 'afraid' of me. I tried to talk to him on MySpace telling him, "What am I gonna do? I ain't gonna butt rape you or anything." Which is actually what he thought. But he blocked me on MySpace so I wrote him a note in school just saying, "Can I PLEASE talk to you? I can't do anything to you, and even if I could, I won't." Well, he didn't even read the note, he threw it in the trash. Now he's going around school telling people I asked him out. Well, he got slapped by several people cause he's a complete a$$. But anyway, the asst. principal found the note in the trash, so I had to go to the office and talk to him and the resource officer. They ended up calling my mom, but she understood because it would have been a LOT different if this happened with a girl rather than a guy.

[terrancew_hod]

^Well from first glance it did sound a bit like stalking.

 

If he can't be bothered, forget him; it's his loss. You'll learn as you get older that if they aren't with the program, you don't waste another second on them. Also high school is based on appearance; he won't hang with you because he's afraid that he'll appear to be gay. Heck he may be harboring some feelings he's not ready to address at this point, so it doesn't help to keep trying to contact him. I've heard a few stories where it wasn't until someone who was afraid of gays to come out when they graduated from high school years later. They don't have to face people on a day to day basis and they're living more on their terms later.

 

Either way, forget him and move on. You've got better things to do.

 

Terry

[jynx242]

^ I totally agree with Terrance! I was just speaking with a friend about this very topic this morning. I was saying that I certainly don't "hate" people that dislike gay people. That would make me as bad as them. But I do have the choice of who I hang out with and who I don't. If someone doesn't like gays - we're probably not going to be spending much time together anyhow.

 

D.

[odene497]

I'm seriously considering writing a book all about gay. I've been thinking about it for months now, and I'm going to start writing down ideas for what I think needs to be discussed. I don't want people to only be accepting of gays, I want them to understand it.

 

EDIT: Oh yeah, I have two very wise, understanding, and trustworthy teachers, one an english teacher, and the other a history teacher. I'm going to talk to them about my book idea.