Sexual Orientation

[What Now]

I was 17 when I came out to my brother. Others I came out to in my twenties.

 

There's no rules on when one should or shouldn't come out. Come out when you feel ready. Some people come out when they are 14 or earlier or later. Hell, there are men who are married for years before they come out.

[Nrthwnd]

For myself, it was just before I turned sixteen.

 

And that was actually, coming out to myself.

 

Acceptance of self is a very important thing, as well as all the rest of what will come or happen.

 

When you feel good and 'right' about who you are within your own gut, you're on a pretty good start, I'd say.

 

[CoasterExpert13]

I just came out to my friends and family 2 months ago.

[Deadromanticx]

YOu know, all i hear about comming out are good things, people seem to usually think the experince made them happier, but hell, you'd still never convince me to do it.

 

People who do that have one hell of alot of courage, i think.

It says you live in L.A.! Please, if you lived in Alabama or something I'd expect that. But really, all you need to come out is a close friend (usually female, but sometimes male friends work). I came out to my first friend because she told me about all the gay friends she has at her school, and to my first male friend because he said he has a gay sister and a gay brother.

Really, you'll be so much happier if you do, even if in the RARE case you happen to lose a couple friends. I remember I was pretty much consistently happy for about two months after I did.

[Blazen_AZN]

YOu know, all i hear about comming out are good things, people seem to usually think the experince made them happier, but hell, you'd still never convince me to do it.

 

People who do that have one hell of alot of courage, i think.

It says you live in L.A.! Please, if you lived in Alabama or something I'd expect that. But really, all you need to come out is a close friend (usually female, but sometimes male friends work). I came out to my first friend because she told me about all the gay friends she has at her school, and to my first male friend because he said he has a gay sister and a gay brother.

Really, you'll be so much happier if you do, even if in the RARE case you happen to lose a couple friends. I remember I was pretty much consistently happy for about two months after I did.

 

 

YOu're totally right, but i mean comming WAY out, like ,"HEY EVERYBODY! IM GAY!".

 

I have, actually, told my best freind (who is a girl, most of my friends actually are) and its actually alot easier to talk to her now, beacuase i don't need to pretend to be someone im not. IT'd just be awhile before everyone knows, but im thinking about telling a few more of my friends before this schoolyear ends.

 

 

Finally accepting that you're gay is by far the hardest part. (for me, anyway)

[SonOfBeastSucks]

And Nrthwnd, i agree, finally accepting that you're gay is by FAR the hardest part.

That is the opposite for me. I found it very easy to admit it to myself that I am gay, but I do have trouble telling some people.

[Hurricane]

Same with me, it was easy to come out to myself, but It was incredibly hard to come out to my freinds, I realised i was when i was 12 or 13, Thats when I told my best freind I was gay, he's no longer my freind, he blocked me straight away (Some freind he was) I still havn't told my parents, thats going to be the HARDEST thing to do.

[cprocks22]

I am gay, i also haven't told my parents and im just not ready too. I have told a few of my friends who are ok with it.

[shepp]

I seem to have noticed that Lesbians don't like roller coasters...

 

Actually, the first time I rode an inverted (PGA Top Gun) it was me and my honey and a pair of lesbians sharing the front row. Made me feel a lot more secure.

 

And then there was the lesbian couple on Penguin's Blizzard River, but that's not really a coaster, so...

 

Maybe (I'm thinking) that there seem to be relatively few open lesbians at theme parks is the general prevalence of teenage het boys at them, maybe?

[restoca]

I seem to have noticed that Lesbians don't like roller coasters...

 

Maybe (I'm thinking) that there seem to be relatively few open lesbians at theme parks is the general prevalence of teenage het boys at them, maybe?

 

It's been my experience that if you take notice, some of those "teenage boys" are actually thirty-something lesbians...

[Janus]

So on the topic of being out and all -

I've got a question.. Ok, it seems like a lot of people have been saying they've known they were gay since they were like 10 (not just on the boards, just people in general that i know). I myself didn't until I was almost 16 (given I should have figured it out in junior high). But seriously though. When you're 10, how do you know?

[Deadromanticx]

By how you have no attraction to girls and an extreme curiosity (very soon leading to attraction) towards males. That was at 10 for me. I spent the next 5 years convincing myself that I was wrong, pretending to be straight, or trying to change it. Obviously, that proved fruitless.

[What Now]

^^ That's also something I've wondered about.

 

I read about a thery that homosexuals have saxaul thoughts/feelings earlier then most people, but that's debatable (like a lot of therys about sexual oreintation).

[BiCoastal Kid]

I spent the next 5 years convincing myself that I was wrong, pretending to be straight, or trying to change it. Obviously, that proved fruitless.

 

Funny, it seems to have turned out quite fruitfull, if you ask me.

 

 

ANYWAY, I actually tried to read the past 7 pages but got really annoyed at all the seemingly forceful "ideas." Really, I think it's funny how we're all being accepted but when spike said he had chosen to become celibate, basically, everybody started questioning his personal decision and tried to bring out all this "lykomg look at all the hypocrisy."

 

To be honest, there's just as many two-sided freaks in the non-religious group too.

 

 

And about open relationships.... I have to agree with Zoltan, I don't get open relationships at all. I can barely touch a guy I don't really have feelings for without gagging... and subsequently vomitting, more than often.

 

Ah, the power of the mind!

[CoasterExpert13]

So on the topic of being out and all -

I've got a question.. Ok, it seems like a lot of people have been saying they've known they were gay since they were like 10 (not just on the boards, just people in general that i know). I myself didn't until I was almost 16 (given I should have figured it out in junior high). But seriously though. When you're 10, how do you know?

 

For me, I knew around 13 that I was...I found myself experimenting with my best friend one day...it just felt right.

[cray hail]

straight, because ya know... i'm clearly married to carrie underwood .

[sfmmFREAK]

"we're all gay, its just to what extent"

[cray hail]

wherd.

[shepp]

 

ANYWAY, I actually tried to read the past 7 pages but got really annoyed at all the seemingly forceful "ideas." Really, I think it's funny how we're all being accepted but when spike said he had chosen to become celibate, basically, everybody started questioning his personal decision and tried to bring out all this "lykomg look at all the hypocrisy."

 

To be honest, there's just as many two-sided freaks in the non-religious group too.

 

 

And about open relationships.... I have to agree with Zoltan, I don't get open relationships at all. I can barely touch a guy I don't really have feelings for without gagging... and subsequently vomitting, more than often.

 

Ah, the power of the mind!

 

 

Well, Spike suddenly turned up - after previously defining himself as happily gay and in a good relationship - crowing how Jesus brought him out of the "bondage" of homosexuality and referring us doubters to the Website of a pseudoscientific cult of fact-challenged Christbots. I think (and Wes pretty well ensured) that the discussion remained on a pretty polite level. (To the best of my knowledge, BTW, Spike didn't merely say he'd decided on celibacy; he said he no longer he had gay desires and/or that the skygod had turned him straight...he never made that quite clear.) Listen, just because I want to be accepted for who I am, that doesn't mean I have to nod my head sweetly at whatever anyone else says, even if it's utter garbahge. It's one thing to say, "I used to figure I was queer, but now I feel pretty much het." It's quite another to proclaim, "Gays are damnable sinners, but accepting Jesus will turn them straight." Phooey on that.

 

As to your not being able to play around without puking...I refer you to an excellent scholarly tome, The Myth of Monogamy, which pretty well puts to rest the idea that sexual fidelity is a "natural" and "inherent" part of the human animal. It's social conditioning, pure and simple, just like the religiously fueled sexual guilt that underlies the Exodus, International tripe.

 

However, I must confess that, despite my lovely open relationship, messing around with Log Cabin Republicans does make me a trifle queasy.

[Robgraves]

I am a Hobosexual.

 

When i see a sign that says "will work for food" all i can think is... "i bet you will...."

[BiCoastal Kid]

^^Well, it came across like you were trying to disprove his beliefs.

 

Also, I could care less if monogomy is natural or not. The fact is that I can't do anything with anybody I don't have strong feelings for, and if you'd like to try and disprove me on that I'll point you to the 5 monthish period of depression and self loathing i experienced that last time I tried.

[Crazy4Coasters!]

shepp wrote: "Gays are damnable sinners, but accepting Jesus will turn them straight." Phooey on that.

 

Well am christian but am not here to point fingers. Shepp was right on one thing "Gays are sinners" but they are not damnable. Everyone in this world has the choice to be gay or not. Jesus died for everyone no matter who they are. It doesn't matter if you committed countless murders or lied once in your life. Everyone in this world have sin but Jesus paid our debt on the cross for each and eveyone of us. It's up to us to give our live's to Christ just like my friend Spike did. That is proof alone that its by choice and not by nature. He made the choice to leave a lifestyle that is not proper in the eyes of God.I have heard the theories of gays being "born like that" but that is simply not true. God does not make mistakes... SIN is the only thing that corrupts God's creation, (us), and trys to destroy God's creation.

 

Here's a bible verse to think about...

 

Don't you know that those who do wrong will have no share in the Kingdom of God? Don't fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, who are idol worshipers, adulterers, male prostitutes, homosexuals... non of these will have a share in the Kingdom of God.

 

1 Corinthians 6:9-10, NLT

[Louise]

One of the few major threads (by which I mean, more than a few pointless posts long) that I recall being closed here was centred around religion... It's something that people will NEVER agree on, so why not just avoid the issue?

 

Can we PLEASE just move away from the religious/moral debates and get this thread back to what it was at the start? It'd really suck to go 65 pages in a civil manner and then have the thing get locked...

 

Sorry to butt in, but... C'mon, we can all see where this is going.

[Robgraves]

well then heres another wonderful bible quote for you, this one says that if one person in a town doesnt believe.... then you must kill the town.

 

Suppose you hear in one of the towns the LORD your God is giving you that some worthless rabble among you have led their fellow citizens astray by encouraging them to worship foreign gods. In such cases, you must examine the facts carefully. If you find it is true and can prove that such a detestable act has occurred among you, you must attack that town and completely destroy all its inhabitants, as well as all the livestock. Then you must pile all the plunder in the middle of the street and burn it. Put the entire town to the torch as a burnt offering to the LORD your God. That town must remain a ruin forever; it may never be rebuilt. Keep none of the plunder that has been set apart for destruction. Then the LORD will turn from his fierce anger and be merciful to you. He will have compassion on you and make you a great nation, just as he solemnly promised your ancestors. "The LORD your God will be merciful only if you obey him and keep all the commands I am giving you today, doing what is pleasing to him." (Deuteronomy 13:13-19 NLT)

 

 

or how about this one....

 

 

ever work on the sabbath....

 

The LORD then gave these further instructions to Moses: 'Tell the people of Israel to keep my Sabbath day, for the Sabbath is a sign of the covenant between me and you forever. It helps you to remember that I am the LORD, who makes you holy. Yes, keep the Sabbath day, for it is holy. Anyone who desecrates it must die; anyone who works on that day will be cut off from the community. Work six days only, but the seventh day must be a day of total rest. I repeat: Because the LORD considers it a holy day, anyone who works on the Sabbath must be put to death.' (Exodus 31:12-15 NLT

 

 

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[Louise]

*sigh* I tried.