JamesMC Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 When the occasion arises that you run into your "EX" whether it be significant other/ former spouse, how do you react? I invited my ex-wife out tonight with some friends and we had a great time and I even remembered what attracted me to her in the first place and why we enjoyed each other's company MORE SO than why we broke up. However, I cannot be in the same room with the woman who I dated for a couple years after my divorce. We have no earthly reason to be together, but if we are, there's such a strong chemical reaction that we end up together- again- only just to break right back up. Most of my EX's (pre marriage) and I are still on good terms and generally enjoy each other's company. Just wondering where every one else stood? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krouvi Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 Unfortunately I am not so good with breakups like you. I can't see any of my ex and there are 2 ladies that may cuase me to throw up if I will meet them ever again. I wish I could be more like you. But I hate goodbyes and very bad with breakups. It makes me really sick and recovering time is very long. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roasted_marshmallow Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 I'm friends with the majority of my exes. It has to do with the reason you break up... If you break up because the other person is an ass, then you likely won't be friends. If you break up because you make better friends than lovers, you'll likely be friends. I'm actually friends with a number of my exes... another number I hope I never see again, and some that while I don't plan on running into them, to do so wouldn't be a horrific experience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jynx242 Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 I generally do ok with my ex's. Although I haven't broken up with anyone in quite a few years - usually my partners and I would fizzle out or stop "dating" earlier rather than later. If things started going downhill - we would usually just let it go rather than try to stay togeher (what I call Flogging a dead horse.) I don't really "hang out" with my exes. If I see them around - fine, but I don't go out of my way to hang out with them. david Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ParkTrips Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 I think just about every girl I have ever dated started out as a good friend, so I actually remained friends with some of them after the split. Off the top of my head I'd say about a third of them remained friends even after a breakup. It was almost always the same... except without the kissing and 'stuff' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sfmmFREAK Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 me and most of my exes aren't really on speaking terms Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Masked_Maverick Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 I am happy to report I am cool with 2/3 of my ex's. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robgraves Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 im friends with all but one of my exes... the rest im cool with. Hell, a few months back my wife and i went to dinner with my ex i was with for 3 years and her husband... it was cool... and made me appreciate my decisions in life all the more. not saying shes a bad girls or anything... just realized we were oil and water. While my wife and I are like two streams converging. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarryH Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 I tried to be friends with my ex, but there was too much bitterness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
downunder Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 Like never, they always seem to want me more than I want them after a while, I just get bored, I tend to go with whatever girl likes me who is good looking, one day I'll grow up. At least my friends are always impressed. The idea of being married with a family doesn't do anything for me either. I'm not generally a shallow person but this part of my life is very shallow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spookbaby Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 I am proud to say that I am on speaking terms and hang out with all of my exes on a regular basis... even my exfiancee! Every last one of them even called me last Tuesday to wish me happy birthday! However, my exfiancee and my current boyfriend... not so good terms Laura "we gotta keep 'em seperated" Huls Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SharkTums Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 Those of us who were at Epcot with Melanie know that she talks to her ex-husband! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scaparri Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 I try to avoid my ex at all costs. I don't mean to sound over-dramatic, but I mean it when I say she is the craziest person I've ever met in person. She became so crazy, that I was sometimes afraid of her. I have no idea why I put up with her for so long. After five months of giving me hell following our break-up, I finally stopped trying to be friends and have no desire to anymore. I have no desire to ever see her again or talk to her. She has issues to say the least. As for my ex before that, we dated for two years and are now extremely close friends. Things didn't really go "sour". We just came to the realization that we were different people going in different directions so we said good game and went our different ways peacefully while remaining really good friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
okinawaboy11 Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Well I hope I never see my Ex ever again because it would be extremely akward because I told him my parents found out about us and I was never aloud to see him again. Yes. I lie. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
USRoadTripper Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 I don't have a good track record with exes either. One of them, we tried being friends after the fact, but when someone continues to treat you so badly and lie to you so much, their friendship just isn't worth it anymore. He was very toxic in my life for five years, so it's definitely better that we don't speak anymore. Two others, I don't talk to anymore, but if I ran into them somewhere (which has happened) we could easily exchange pleasantries, but I'm sure that's where it would end. I couldn't imagine even calling up one of my exes, much less hanging out with them. -Julie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TatsuXtreme Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 well i still hang out with my latest Ex almost every day, so i guess were cool with each other. since we broke up, i found a new girlfriend and she found a new boyfriend. As for my first Ex: We are still really good friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcjaco Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Let's see, all but one of them are gone from my life. I still am friends with the friends of one, so I get stories on what she's up to, but that's it. I have a real strange relationship with my one and only long term relationship before I met my wife. My buddy married her sister, so I see and hear her family all the time. She just had her second kid with the the guy she dumped me for (he's a loser). We still act cordial when we're around each other, but we don't go out of our way to make contact. Matt "Once I love 'em, I leave 'em" Jacobs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fallen Heretic Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Im on good terms with all but two of my exes. One of the two now lives in a different area and we just lost touch. The other one turned out to be a lesbian who wasnt ready to tell her faminly, so took on a 'token' boyfriend to throw them off the scent. Which sucks. So we arent on good terms. All in all though, I can get over pretty much anything after a time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bratman Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 with the exception of my last one, I have nothing to do with any of them. Why? Quite simply, the treatment I got from any and all of them was bad enough that you just cannot be friends with people like them. I am not quite sure why I talk to my most recent ex. I have not seen her since I broke up with her, we just talk...took a month or so before we would even do that. Maybe it is because I never had those deep feelings for her like I did for the others, and so had nothing to feel bitter about. I duno... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meteornotes Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 Some people here know my ex-wife. I think they'd agree that it is a good thing that I have no contact with her. We have no reason to speak to each other ever again. I don't know what happened to any of the random women I dated after my divorce. There's only one that I had a really long relationship with that I'd still talk to, but it's probably better that we don't interact with each other. It was our 2nd anniversary today for Mary and me. I don't spend a lot of time thinking about the other ones... dt Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginzo Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 I keep all my old gfs in a cage in the basement, just like Borat does. They have to be on good terms with me, or I don't feed them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
niiicolaaah Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 It was our 2nd anniversary today for Mary and me. Aww, congrats! Mine all moved away eventually. That's what happens when you live in an area with a crappy economy. For the most part, they weren't friends with my friends, so it was cool. I was still cool to talk over AIM, and I only saw them in passing at school. One was pretty hard though because we were friends with all the same people, so we saw each other all the time. He also spread rumours about me and would come to my dorm when he was wasted, trying to get some action. That made me get over him pretty fast. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcjaco Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 It was our 2nd anniversary today for Mary and me. dt Congrats Dave! My 2nd Anniversary is right around the corner too.....what to do, what to do??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meteornotes Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 ^We decided last year that instead of giving each other gifts for our anniversary, we'd take a fun trip instead. The last two years we went to Charleston, SC, where we did all sorts of tourist-type stuff, and ate at all sorts of good restaurants (I had just about the best steak ever last night!). We're already scouting locations for next year... dt Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ECZenith Posted November 8, 2006 Share Posted November 8, 2006 I was with my last g/f for almost 5 years (as of this August, would have been 5 years this past September) We just now started talking again on the phone, but I have a feeling we should keep our distance from eachother. So yeah, got cheated on by a girl who I thought was good... and I still talk to her... I'm such a sap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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