I'm getting really stressed over this whole thing. She hasn't been here all week and I'm having trouble finding her on facebook. I've been losing sleep, I haven't been eating, and in general I've been just feeling like crap. What's really screwed up is that I've had some disturbing dreams where she has died and I'm getting worried, even though I probably shouldn't be. I was REALLY worried when I saw the flags in front of the school flying at only half-staff. Maybe my body is trying to tell me that I'm not ready for this kind of relationship. I kind of disregarded that theory when my mom suggested it, but I'm starting to reconsider. This is really the first time I've ever been really serious about starting a relationship. I really don't know why I'm feeling like this.
You just gotta chill out. Things don't go as planned if you're worried about what's going to happen. If you even have a plan at all, chances are you won't act yourself. But you've just gotta try and keep it off your mind as much as possible. It really just makes you paranoid and it's not a good way to go about a relationship!
grrt wrote:You just gotta chill out. Things don't go as planned if you're worried about what's going to happen. If you even have a plan at all, chances are you won't act yourself. But you've just gotta try and keep it off your mind as much as possible. It really just makes you paranoid and it's not a good way to go about a relationship!
Like I don't already know that. It's just really hard because like I said, I have never felt this way about a girl before. And if when I do ask her out, if she says no than I would have been so stressed for nothing, and that would really suck.
Yeah, it seems obvious, though it sometimes helps to hear things from other people, so you don't think you're crazy haha. Really not much you can do but wait it out and keep your mind off it. And relationships don't happen just like that. I wouldn't recommend saying the typical will you go out with me? But just ask to hang and see where it goes... And put out so she knows you want to be more than friends.
I was able to keep my mind off it for a while, but when I looked in my friend's list of friends and saw that she wasn't on the list, it got me worried again. Why would her account just close at the same time she misses 3 days of school? I really don't know what to make of that. I really hope the "death dreams" and flags halfway up the poles and her account closing is just some freakish coincidence. This is really discouraging me from pursuing a relationship with anyone. I really don't know what to make of it.
imawesome1124 wrote: Step 2 is to tell her how I feel about her. Hopefully I won't seem like I'm coming on too strong.
Idk, IMO it's a little early for that. Show her you like her through your actions... like complementing her, asking her on dates, asking her about how her day went and genuinely caring about what she has to say, etc. Plus, girls often have a 6th sense when it comes to guys that like them, and I think every girl goes through the stage where she's like, "Okay, I think this guy likes me, but do I like him? Maybe I'll just hang out with him and see how it goes..." So I don't think it's necessary to get into a "feelings discussion" quite yet, but rather, just spend time with her and give her time.
But I think a general rule of thumb for relationships... just see how it goes, gauge the situation, because there's no such thing as universal advice. I know I'm guilty of trying to over-think things too much instead of just rolling with it.
On another note.... I'M SO SICK OF SOME GUYS ARGHHHHH!!! One of my close friends is in a situation that's way too familiar. I had to pretty much talk her out of suicide and tell her how great of a person she is and how she deserves so much better because she's in love with him and he completely manipulates her feelings! It's literally an emotional roller coaster! He treats her like complete s**t and tries to control her and make her feel guilty whenever they're in a fight (like it's all HER fault) and then turn around and tell her he loves her and talk about getting married someday and stuff. It's guys like this that make me lose my already feeble hope in the male population!
“If toast always lands butter-side down, and cats always land on their feet, what happens if you strap toast on the back of a cat and drop it?”
Last night, the breakup with my long-distance girlfriend was made 100% official.
See, ever since we broke it off two months ago, we've both kept the idea in the back of our minds that it's only temporary, that in a few years, when we grow up and understand our own lives better, we can get back together and be happier than ever.
But we've recognized how unhealthy that is, especially when she has a new boyfriend that isn't exactly pleased to find out how close she is to her ex that still has yet to get over her. So she told me last night that we should stop talking for a while, just to ease his nerves and give me a chance to fully move on and learn to live without her playing a huge part in my life.
I totally understand the motive behind this, and agree that it's absolutely for the best of all three of the people it affects.. but that doesn't change it from being one of the hardest things I've ever been through. Ashley was the first girl I've loved, and while there's a high possibility it may have just been that young, stupid, "NUBUDY HAZ LUVD LYK USSS!!! <9" thing, it doesn't change the fact that she was so important to me.
But there's nothing I can do now, except move on. Here goes nothing.
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