The Ever Changing Me...

[thrillrideseeker]

Post no longer needed.

~Matthew

Edited February 2, 2011 by thrillrideseeker

[Wes]

fffffff

Edited November 14, 2010 by Wes

[Thelegendarymatthew]

While I'm not a doctor, or anyone who has had experience in what you are doing. I can try the best to give you some advice. I'm sure you've heard this before, but if not its always an option. Muscle weighs a lot, so if you want to increase your muscle size, that is always an option to do.

 

Thats all I have for now, hope it helps!

[Coaster Cow]

*edited for irrelevance*

Edited February 4, 2011 by Coaster Cow

[Wes]

Realistically, anyone who is looking to make a physical change should seek out a specific internet forum related to their goals and issues. Just as TPR is one of many amusement park related forums, there are TONS and TONS of fitness and self-improvement forums all over the internet. Think your situation is unique? It's probably not, and there's probably people discussing it online. You're going to get better, more educated answers.

I was able to find a forum/support group with the same issues I have that has become absolutely vital to my fitness process.

 

TPR can be a good support system, but if any of you want to motivate yourselves to real results, I'd suggest finding an online community that fits in with what your goals are.

[larrygator]

^Ah, the old common sense approach!

[Philrad71]

I can say that I was VERY thin through my teens and into my twenties...never really good or "cool" enough for sports and picked on a lot because I weighed under 100 pounds soaking wet most of my way through high school. Not fun.

 

Friends had suggested that I needed to eat more, but even though I ate what I wanted, I just could not gain weight. I tried the weight gain stuff from GNC, but still did not gain any sort of noticeable weight. Never went to the doctor because most of my family was thin and the resounding response to my concern was that it "ran in the family."

 

Well, let's fast forward that ten years plus into my thirties and now that my metabolism has slooooowed way down now that I am rapidly approaching 40, I weigh in about 180 pounds which they say is pretty close to ideal for my age.

 

But now I am concerned that I am getting overweight and I do have a gut! While I think it is probably not a bad idea to get yourself checked out if you're really worried about being underweight, my recommendation would be to wait until you get into your thirties...then you'll look at yourself and say, "What the hell happened!" The fact that I transferred to a desk job four years ago has a lot to do with my gut, but the rest of me has filled out on it's own.

 

If it makes you feel any better, I went to my 20th high school reunion last year and some of my classmates that were "perfect" in high school were now overweight. I also had a few people tell me that I was the person that had changed the most since high school and I was getting lot's of nice comments like "boy, you look great" and "you used to be so scrawny and have filled out nicely!" Of course, I wore a loose fitting dress shirt so they couldn't see my gut, but it was still nice to get those comments!

 

Bottom line is I wouldn't let it get you down too much...enjoy it while you have it because eventually the metabolism is going to slow down and you will definitely start putting on weight as you get older.

 

The best thing about being skinny that a lot of people might not know?? We're awesomely hung!!! Believe it...being a gay man, I have seen lot's of pics and you rarely see a skinny guy that ain't packin' the heat!!!! My advice is don't be shy and enjoy who you are and don't let the superficial people get you down! Hey, they're the one's missing out!

[jynx242]

^ My story EXACTLY! I couldn't have put it better myself.

 

As far as gaining weight - although Wes' advice is quite on point - there might be somewhere where it is not the amount you eat but WHAT you eat. Carbs vs. proteins, etc. Just a thought. I used to be in that situation, and am now in kind of the opposite. My mid-30's I ended up at almost 200lbs, which was WAY TOO BIG for me. I now hover between 165 - 175 lbs and am pretty okay there. Just the middle-age spread is really starting to kill off my "inner child."

[mcjaco]

Just wait ten years.

[thrillrideseeker]

Post No longer needed....

~Matthew

Edited February 2, 2011 by thrillrideseeker

[larrygator]

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[ginzo]

If you want to gain weight, just drink a lot. Alcohol is calorie dense and very habit forming. The only thing that contains more calories per unit mass than alcohol is fat.

 

A soda habit is another good way to get fat^H^H^H^H^H^H^Hgain weight.

 

Another option is Iodine-131, which will kill your thyroid gland off. Although you'll have to take thyroid hormones for the rest of your life, there's no more surefire way to gain weight than to have a fucked thyroid.

Edited February 2, 2011 by ginzo

[SharkTums]

So you went to several licenced medical professionals who refused to give into your creepy demands until you finally found some money hungry one that agreed to make you look fake and creepy? Perhaps you should save your money for a different type of medical professional...one that involves a couch and talking about why you're doing what you're doing.

[BeemerBoy]

This.

[gisco]

^Awesome!!

[the ghost]

^^ HAHAHAHAHA!

 

As for this thread...Only in America.(faceplam)

[BeemerBoy]

Feel free to comment and let me know what you think!! Next up I am entering the world of plastic surgery!

You wanna know what I think? Too bad, you don't get a choice....I'm telling you anyway.

 

I THINK YOU'RE ACTING LIKE A FRIGGIN' IDIOT.

 

Listen dude, I don't pull any punches, so here goes. Your biggest problem is not your hometown. It's not your job. It's not your family, your hairstyle, your car, your wardrobe, your teeth, or even the price of bread and milk in Orlando. It's YOU.....period. You don't seem to listen to a damn thing anyone tells you.

 

You've been posting here for several years now, and not once have you seemed to take anyone's advice on anything, yet you continue to ask for it......and ignore it. Seriously, when you first started posting, many of us gave you a tough time, and deservedly so. Your ramblings reeked of some teenage doped up moron who couldn't think for himself.

 

Over time, you moved, found a partner, eventually managed to hold down a job or two, and your posts somewhat improved. It even seemed like maybe you were getting control of things and starting to mature a bit. Dare I say, you were possibly starting to gain a slight bit of respect. However, somehow you've managed to fall right back into your old ways.

 

It's like you enjoy being self destructive, and quite frankly, it's disturbing. Elissa's correct, you have some issues, man. Issues that need a couch and R. Lee Ermey. I think I can speak for some of us who have even tried to extend an olive branch to you over time (myself included) that no one realistically wants to see anyone fail in life. At least not anyone who honestly tries hard to change their ways. But the way you post openly about your life, ask for comments and feedback, and then toss suggestions aside in order to continue on your path of self destruction will not garner any respect around here.

 

You NEED to take a serious look in the mirror (since you obviously already immensely enjoy that), and realize that there's a ton of good advice from people who are trying to help you. It's about self respect....and right now, you don't seem to have any.

 

 

That's what I think.

[SharkTums]

^Yup.

[ginzo]

^^Wow!

 

Yeah, to the OP, plastic surgery is an iffy thing. Some people, like actors, have to do it to stay working when they get older. But you are neither old nor an actor. As Larry's picture shows an extreme example of, plastic surgery can create freaks.

 

http://www.awfulplasticsurgery.com/

 

You'd be a lot better off if you took any money you were going to use for plastic surgery and stuck it into a Roth IRA. Not as exciting as surgery, I know, but a lot more useful to you when you actually do get old.

 

Another thing to consider about cosmetic surgery is that it is fucking *surgery*. People can and do have complications from these procedures.

[thrillrideseeker]

You've been posting here for several years now, and not once have you seemed to take anyone's advice on anything, yet you continue to ask for it......and ignore it. Seriously, when you first started posting, many of us gave you a tough time, and deservedly so. Your ramblings reeked of some teenage doped up moron who couldn't think for himself.

 

Over time, you moved, found a partner, eventually managed to hold down a job or two, and your posts somewhat improved. It even seemed like maybe you were getting control of things and starting to mature a bit. Dare I say, you were possibly starting to gain a slight bit of respect. However, somehow you've managed to fall right back into your old ways.

 

It's like you enjoy being self destructive, and quite frankly, it's disturbing. Elissa's correct, you have some issues, man. Issues that need a couch and R. Lee Ermey. I think I can speak for some of us who have even tried to extend an olive branch to you over time (myself included) that no one realistically wants to see anyone fail in life. At least not anyone who honestly tries hard to change their ways. But the way you post openly about your life, ask for comments and feedback, and then toss suggestions aside in order to continue on your path of self destruction will not garner any respect around here.

 

You NEED to take a serious look in the mirror (since you obviously already immensely enjoy that), and realize that there's a ton of good advice from people who are trying to help you. It's about self respect....and right now, you don't seem to have any.

 

 

That's what I think.

Well I ask what you guys think, and you have spoken... Now for the first time I will take into consideration everything that you have said, and agreeing with most of it... I guess now the only thing to do is figure out what I need to do to correct what I have done wrong, and maybe someday regain respect.

~Matthew

[jynx242]

Matthew - you are overlooking one important fact. You are a good looking guy. There is absolutely no need for you to change ANYTHING! The veneers look great, but what else could you possibly want to change? The above posters are referring to the phenomena of Body Dismorphic Disorder. To put it simply, it is when people look in the mirror and absolutely hate what they see for no reason apparent to anyone else on the planet.

 

This post isn't coming from a slamming on you place, just a post from someone (who you don't really know ) who is concerned for your well being. Unnecessary elective surgeries is DANGEROUS. Just think before you cut, okay?

 

David

[thrillrideseeker]

The above posters are referring to the phenomena of Body Dismorphic Disorder. To put it simply, it is when people look in the mirror and absolutely hate what they see for no reason apparent to anyone else on the planet.Unnecessary elective surgeries is DANGEROUS. Just think before you cut, okay?

 

David

Ohhhh!!! See I'm not like that though! I do not hate the way I look at all! I like the way I look, and I too feel that I am some what attractive. (Not overly conceited) There are just things that I wanted to do to improve myself for me! For example, I know that I did not need the Veneers, they are just something that I wanted. I know that my teeth were fine before, but now they are amazing! I could not be more happy with them! The same with the plastic surgery. Its not something that I feel I need, because I know I don't... Its just something I wanted. But taking the advice from others I am no longer going to have the plastic surgery done. Or anything else for that matter. I do not need to have any of it done, so whats the point when I could save the money for when I may need it some day.

~Matthew

[jmicha]

I have seen this with some people I know in the gay community and it is good that you are not going to seriously consider plastic surgery. This is just my opinion, but unless it is reconstructive it shouldn't even exist. You are who you are and trust me, we all have small things we don't like about the way we look. It's human nature. Self image is something I have struggled with but it has led to constructive efforts such as losing weight and getting into shape over the last couple of years. As others have said, you are a good looking guy and any small things you see when you look in the mirror are not going to be seen by others. You really have nothing to feel upset about looks wise.

 

Also, I may sound like I'm ripping on your choice of getting veneers, but frankly they look ridiculous. Teeth aren't that color EVER. The shape is also...fake. It reminds me of my 9th grade art class when we had to do self portraits and half the class just drew the mouth then made a singular horizontal line to distinguish between top and bottom teeth then separated them vertically into a neat matrix of teeth...not at all how teeth look naturally. Your teeth were quite good looking beforehand and now they look...creepy. I know I'm not someone you know personally or someone whose opinion you will probably put a lot of stock in, but I would really consider getting them removed. They were SOOO much better beforehand. Be happy with who you are and don't try so hard to focus on the small things. In the end these won't matter. And if they do matter, you are doing something wrong as the people who care about you and you care about won't care if your teeth aren't unnaturally perfect.

[the ghost]

^^ If you like what you see just live with it. There are some people who plastic surgery is good for, for example, I have known people with birth defects who have gotten it, and it helped them. Trust me on this, no one NEEDS plastic surgery. It is a convenience that frankly pisses me off like nothing else. Are people really so dissatisfied with who they are or how they look that they need to modify there entire appearance. I am not a religious person by any means, and even I feel like we look how we look for a reason, no reason to change how we look. I seriously have no respect for those who surgically change every imperfection that they have, because, honestly, perfection is a creepy ass thing. Perfection is not at all natural, meaning it does not occur in any aspect of humanity or nature, and is there fore unachievable, so be happy. Trust me, you could have been handed a lot worse hand then what you've got, but you don't so be happy with what you've got and don't stress about what you want or don't want. If we just lived by these ideals I wouldn't be so agitated with humanity in general.

[jynx242]

^^ Once you get Veneers, you can't have them removed. You have to have your original teeth ground down to have the Veneers applied over them.