The worst week of my life...

[Movieguy]

I was wondering whether I should talk about this, but i decided I should, since I consider many of you my friends.

 

Back on August 24, I went to the NYS fair with my family, and took many pictures...I was planning on scanning these pics, and sharing them as another trip report within the following week...

 

That was, until the morning of August 29th, the worst day I've ever lived through. My mother woke me up early, to inform me that my father suddenly suffered a heart attack. The medics got him to the hospital, but unfortunately, he died once he arrived in the emergency room. He was only 53 years old.

 

I'm handling everything as well as I can now, since the funeral is over, and we're trying to re-assemble our lives here at home. My father was a wonderful, and wildly inventive man, who did much for the community, as well as for Cornell University's media services. I miss him terribly now, and probably will for much of the remainder of my life.

 

Luckily, my family has a great circle of friends who have been supporting us, especially my mother, who's been the hardest shaken. Hopefully we'll be able to all heal from this terrible loss...

 

As for the photos...I'm not sure I even want to develop those yet, much less scan them. The day is too close to my father's death for comfort.

[weeow]

I lost a loved one recently. I know how it feels. I absolutely hate hospitals now. My thoughts and prayers anre with you and your family.

[Ryan King]

I totally agree with you..Lost my Mom In November due to Brain Cancer. Although I had a Year and A Half to be ready for the death date i guess oyu could put it that way...

 

But you father was so recent and sudden...but you should look at it not as a bad thing, the pictures i mean, look at them as being a happy moment you and your family got to experience. Remember the good times rather then the bad. Reflect on good memories...

 

-Ryan

[DarkStitch626]

I have only ever lost my uncle Mark who I never knew much about.

 

 

Bad memories linger for a long time, they can be so hard to get over...I feel bad for all death..but to all my friends who have experienced a family related one I try to help them through it as well as I can.

 

 

Sean" prayers be with you and your family"Chappell.

 

Dude Ryan thats very sad to hear also!

 

Just a personal note I think sadly the heart attack way is the way my dad is heading, he's in his late 50's and he's had maybe 4 heart attacks. His heart is larger than normal because of it and he has trouble doing things these days , he's always taking naps mid day and getting tired easy. Its rather unsettling to figure the facts.Knowing someone is going to die.

[roasted_marshmallow]

My sincerest condolances to you and your family. It's certainly unexpected for your father to go so young, but you have to have faith (whatever that may be) that he's in a better place now. The pain never truely goes away, but someday you'll be able to think of the joy and good things he brought to your life and know that he also brought joy to the lives of others.

 

It's coming up on the 9 year anniversary of my sister's death (she was 22 and died of cancer) and while I miss her dearly and still cry because she's going to miss so much in my life, I also know shes watching. The pain does subside... sometimes I don't even think about it for months. Other times it was like yesterday. I however, have come to terms with it, and you will as well for your own loss. I know how devestating it can be but you have to ask yourself if your father would want you to dwell upon what you're missing on by not having him there or would he want you to celebrate his live and in turn live yours to the fullest in honour of him. It took me a while to figure out that my sister would only want me to have joy in my life, and I hope that you can believe your father would want the same for you.

[FlyingScooter]

Sorry to hear of your loss.

I hate to put it this way, but time heals all if you let it.

My mom passed when i was 28 and my dad when i was 30. It took me a long time to get over it (years) and holidays have never been the same.

 

Keep the happy memories alive. The older you get, the more you'll rely on them. You'll develop the pictures when you're ready.

One of my fondest memories was of my dad farting after eating beans. My sisters and I still crack up when we think about that. He was his own horn section. Trombones, really out of tune...

 

Give yourself time. As much as you need.

[thomas2]

Sorry for your loss. I have experienced the same here: a friend of mine was death after a motorcrash. It was also very suddenly and I didn't expected it...

 

EDIT: Just found out the daughter of my godfather also died in a carcrash abroad. What is it with people dying around me

[Calaway Park]

My dad died when I was four years old from accidental suicide. He was in his thirtys. 1999. I know how you feel. I was out of town with my mom, and we got a phonecall....

 

My dad accidentally overdosed on pills.

 

At his funeral, I thought my dad was supposed to be there.. at four years old I never understood what it meant for someone to "die."

 

My uncle told me he was there, and he started to cry. The first time anyone had ever seen him cry.

 

My grandma who I was close to recently died a week before my birthday, the funeral being around 3 days before.

 

I know what you're going through. Its hard, but in the end, you learn from it all.

[apollo210]

my grand father died in 1998 and I was 5. AND I HAD TO GO TO HIS FUNERAL on CHRISTMAS DAY! I was sad after I figured out what happened, I mean ON CHRISTMAS DAY!

Well sorry to here about the death . whats with all of these deaths these days, could it be the population?

Also, I had 3 uncles dying before I was born, I didn't knew them .

As well, a kid I knew died when I was 8. Its was really sad as wel to here he died . I'm pretty sure more deaths have happened, but I can't remember them.

[benzo41190]

It is always hard too loose someone that you love and are so close to. But I do agree with Ryan...the best way to get threw it is too remember everything good and not about the bad. And I am one to bottle up my emotions so I never really cried during the funeral of my closest friends. But I talked to my family and we talked for an entire day. I did cry a lot just thinking about the loss, but I also laughed and smiled thinking about all the fun times I have had.

 

Don't think of it as a mournful time...think of it as a celebration of life.

[steel]

I am so, so sorry.

Please go spend time with family now. That is much more important than this.

 

I know how awful death is, especially when it's sudden.

 

My favorite aunt died suddenly from a prolapsed valve in her heart a year ago last August. It was the worst thing I've ever live through, and I wish I never had to do it again.