terrancew_hod

I can understand that. I'm just saying when you put outward appearances at the top of your preferences you're setting yourself up for failure. In other news, this weekend was a doozy. My straight workout partner and I went to a beach party to hear some music and said he's now bisexual, although he's really scared to actually be with a guy. I told him that he just take his time and not rush into anything until he's more comfortable with his gay side. We then met a group of bodybuilders and they were of course crazy about my friend, but one of them who was "very straight acting" (sorry had to rub it in ) and I jokingly called him "big daddy" all day told me "your friend is adorable, but you're HOT". That a big compliment because no one has ever said that to me, just nice, cute, attractive, etc. He wants to help me train to get more mass and cut, and take me to dinner. That's kinda ironic how a few people are looking for "straight acting" guys and I end up snagging one for myself. Didn't mean it, but like I said, when you're not looking for one, they show up.

Um, I hear a lot of talk about "straight acting", but I'm not hearing anything about having someone with common interests, goals, etc. If you're too busy trying to get someone based on their outward appearance in public instead of what's goin on inside, then you always gonna come up empty handed and lonely. I date different types of people, not particularly because of outward appearance, but there's something about their personality I like. And you're definitely in if we can hold a good conversation. I'm a big old kid if nothing else whose interests include, comic book reading, coaster riding, road trips, bowling, "old school" computer games, building computers (well before I got a mac), cult and blaxplotation movies, weight lifting, and house music. Nothing real serious and mature in that list; but then that's probably why I don't look like I'm gonna hit 40 next year and people get a shock when they look at my ID. I don't watch sports because I get hynotized watching tv (tuning people out) and it wastes hours of my time when i could be doing something else. And people say I have no sense when I'm in a good mood and stay out of my way when I'm in a bad mood. Now when I meet someone, they gotta be interested in one of the above else I know it's not gonna work. Notice I didn't say how they gotta act; that's superficial and never works. They can have a little sugar in the tank as long as they don't like wearin dresses... that's where i'll draw the line. I like my men as men.

Yesterday was the day from hell. 1) Freak hailstorm with golf ball size hail and a tornado touched down a few miles away (tornadoes in south florida?). I almost get pelted trying to get back in the building. 2) The dumb maintenance man comes in to fix a broken electrical outlet and decides to just start playing with the circuit breaker and power starts going out around the building... people (including me) lose work. I go in and start yelling at the man for being stupid and not telling us when he's gonna shut off the power. People are laughing because they hear me "ripping him a new one". 3) Voice mail system breaks and we're back to the stone ages taking messages on paper. 4) Human Resource manager comes running in a panic... she just emailed everyone in the company salary information of employees by department. Big OOOPS!!! We have to force people off the email system and yank the email server network cable. Now there is no email in the company either. I half expected Barney Rubble to knock on the front door and tell us we need to get some updated equipment. We have to stay late to clean up the mess she made. Then this morning I'm getting emails from Kmart. Hey... I bought ONE electric blanket from you and they acting like I'm a big customer! I don't know you... stop sending them!

^You know, if you're not happy inside, it's gonna show to others in what you do. People pick up on that no matter how you try to hide it. If you're lonely, then you gotta figure out things to fulfill you. A relationship won't do that. I alone right now, but I sure ain't lonely. I'm doing things and going places where I can enjoy myself; and it always happens... when you aren't looking and you're in your own element they tend to start showing up... although they're looking to do things I ain't trying to hear at that point in time . I'm just glad I live in a city where there are different places you can go for different clientele. Most cities in the midwest have a bar where everyone is lumped into, a lesbian bar and a leather bar. You'll have a hard time finding "that" person. At least there are gay sports bars, restaurants, pool halls, gyms, dance clubs and bowling alleys I can go to here. I just stay away from the "retired mens" places and nights because those old gents get out of hand when I pass through to get something to eat. Anyway, that's most I've typed in a while. Gotta bust these pushups out before work. There's a major beach party I'm planning on attending on south beach this weekend... been working my butt off in this gym to get in shape for this summer with my straight friend who is in love with himself (never seen a straight man stare at himself in the mirror so much!) so this weekend should be a progress report on how my program is going.

What's the definition of drama? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sO75NJcGCqA

I found this today and i'm laughing because the thing is still working.

I got this email today: It then has a link to some girls site. Raisa, you should have taken that left at Albuquerque! 3 problems: 1. You are spamming me and trying to get in my wallet 2. I'm gay 3. I don't pickup via the internet No wonder you ended up in my junk email box... as it should be.

^I agree. Both parks are well themed, although IOA definitely has the thrill rides. If you get an express pass you can knock one of the parks off early enough to go into citywalk and get something to eat. I do however go to Disney more, not for just the rides, but there are a lot of different restaurants and places i still haven't seen. I'll take a friend up to disney and they'll be surprised at going to a restaurant they haven't been to a show they hadn't seen. Also if you're flying in from town and staying at a Disney property, you have the benefit of using the Magical express to pick you up and take you to the airport. So it does depends on whether you want the thrill rides or not.

^This couple showed up and the wife said she was practicing for the bowling night using the Wii... I said "err, ok. But that bowling ball is going to feel nothing like the Wii controller." Later we all had to dive out of the way when she forgot to let go of the ball and it went flying back at us!

I love to bowl as well; I helped organize a birthday bowling party for my friend that has cancer three weeks ago. I was out of practice bowling and had to try to relearn my positioning. I had a blast anyway especially beating this guy that bragging all night with a much heavier ball... he had a 10 lbs ball and i was throwing a 16. I think we will do more bowling (maybe getting my own ball) to get our friends together.

After 2 months, the Florida Department of transportation refunds me for overcharging me on tolls using my electronic pass. They charged me $7 for two 50 cent tolls due to faulty equipment... they tried to say my BMW 325 xi was a semi with multiple axles... i said they were drunk and look at the pictures of my car going through the toll with that pass id. Last week there was an big article in the paper saying they had to refund drivers $90K due to that one toll booth malfunctioning over 2 months... luckily I had called in so my account was already flagged.

Err, how far have you gotten with this game? Poor guy, sitting on the character selection screen! I got the game as well, but haven't loaded it yet... still trying to finish playing Ms pacman on Namco Museum on my PSP! Love that game... Terrance

^^I'm sure it's really tough to deal with questions of sexuality during your teenage years, especially with all the pressure to be accepted. It boils down to you HAVE to love yourself and accept you for who you are. Know that are others going through the same things you are so you aren't alone. I'm pretty sure there youth gay/bi/lesbian groups in your area that have an anonymous helpline you can call; maybe they can answer any questions you have or maybe give you someone you can just talk things out with. Remember this is your life, and how you live it is up to you. As long as you are ok with what you do with it, you will definitely be fine. Terrance

Did you ask her, once you finished your homework, what would she would like you to do instead? Watch sex and violence on TV? Usually when people say crazy things they don't have an answer for you. A few crazy alternatives and you'll be back on your computer in no time. Better yet, if she watches soaps, turn off the tv while she's watching it and give her the same speech. Then say we're both going and taking a nice walk to get some exercise. Remember you can annoy parents like they annoy you.

Walking to an art festival that has my whole neighborhood congested with cars parking on the grass of other's lawns, then getting there and it's supposed to be a high class event with some art going for over $30K... and a man pulls up behind you pushing a cart saying "I got ice cold beer here!" What, am I at a Marlin's game? People these days have NO class.

Someone was blasting "Barbie Girl" (by Aqua) out of their car last week. I thought all the copies of the song were thrown in the bonfire in 1999. Terrance

I just ran over a mile in less than 15 minutes... not that big of a deal but i just started running last week and each time i did it my calves started tightening up. I've always hated running and the last time i tried I was 26 and i don't even think i made the mile... as i sat on the curb cursing out my friend for suggesting it. Now to get it under 12 minutes. Terrance

PPC-6700 with wisbar program to look like an iPhone. $15/month for unlimited internet, can use a bluetooth connection to access the internet on my laptop via my phone. It's bulky so I don't carry it everywhere, but at least i can check the internet, play a quick game, make my own ringtones, etc.

You and Joe can do me a favor and don't bring your ignorance into the conversation. If either of you were old enough to go to New Orleans during Mardi Gras, you'll see straight people on floats doing the same EXACT thing, combined with flashing everyone their private parts for a string of 50 cent beads. But I'm sure you'll accept that, right. 'Nuff said. Now with that out of the way, most people that are gay does not fit the flamboyant, flaming image that the entertainment industry and media wants to portray gays as. Heck, I have, as a black man, endure the sterotype of being an ignorant and part of the hiphop mentality when I go about my daily routines. People generally want to treated like they treat others and this is no different. As people that contribute to society and pay taxes, want to be able to enjoy the same benefits and protections; such as if your spouse was in a coma, you'd be able to visit them without being turned away. Now I keep hearing all this B.S. about gays marriage being a threat to the institution of marriage. Gays isn't the biggest threat. Divorce is. The US has a divorce rate over 50%, and I'm sure it's not because Adam and Steve wants to get married. You want to save the institution of marriage? Make it harder for everyone to get married and divorced. Make sure people complete pre-marriage counseling. Better yet, outlaw divorce. If you're standing before God and saying your vows, you don't have a need for divorce right? It's until death do you part, but people get married and divorces so quick it's ridiculous, but yet when gays want the opportunity all of a sudden marriage is in jeopardy. Now personally if someone came up to me with a petition for gay marriage I wouldn't sign because the community is so divided; and if the community can't come together, whether it gays, lesbian, transgendered, leather, transvestite, black, white, etc, then they need to work on that before asking for acceptance from the outside... especially when I went out over Thanksgiving and gay white man called me a "N" word to my face in a bar. Somebody tell him the KKK doesn't have a gay chapter. Terrance

Of course not. Don't be silly. But when I read some of the comments where people make excuses, or assume an event is a certain way and they haven't even experienced it firsthand is a problem. When I lived in Missouri years ago, I wouldn't go to any pride events, not because I didn't want to associate with certain groups within the gay community nor not wanting it to define who I am, but because they were just plain snoozefests. Go back and re-read some of the posts and look at the reasons... it sounds more like the negativity is more pointed towards themselves than the event. And i can understand people not wanting to go out, especially in smaller communities where you got different groups lumped together in one bar... it makes it difficult to meet anyone with the same interests. The last year i was in the midwest, I stayed at home because I was fed up with the people I met when I went out... I had more fun with my friend in a grocery store than going out. But instead of wallowing, I decided to do something about what I needed to make myself happy and moved. Now I have a bigger cross section of friends and aquaintances, both gay and straight: those I volunteer with, go to dinner with, drink with, ride coasters with, bowl with, etc. I only hang out with people that I'm comfortable being myself with, you see so many people self destruct because they lie to others and try to be what others want them to be (or think that's what they want). Also when you're under 21 and living with your parents, you're in no position to fly the rainbow because you haven't experienced life on your own terms to really make that assessment. There are exceptions though, such as one of my exes that got put out of his house at 16 and lived own his own since. But he's done well for himself.. He bought his own house last year and is putting himself through school; he doesn't go out to pride events because he's dedicated to school and a lot people got on his nerves. Like I said before, different cities have different experiences and I would imagine going to an event in Dayton (or doing anything in that town) would make me yawn. But at least in south florida there places and things to do for the gay community that doesn't involve flashing lights and loud music... My friend and I almost joined the softball league eariler this year to do things outside of the "bar life", but he threw his back out moving so I may do it by myself next year. Life is what you make it, and whoever you are, you should be happy with yourself and your life at the end of the day. Terrance

^While you're busy being stupid, read this: Iran Executes Two Gay Teens In Public Hanging I'm being serious, so let's not work my nerves with Borat. Terrance

^umm, not to sound like "whatever", but I think Twister was asking those who actually went what they thought. It sounds like a few people are, whether they admit it or not, aren't really happy with their gay lives and themselves because of it. Pride is in a sense achievement--the fact you have the opportunity to come out and say, "ok I'm gay" without being ridiculed or bashed is an achievement. You know in other parts of the world, gays are killed and hung by their goverments because of their preference. So some may not be fond of the event, but you know what... consider it an achievement that you can even be gay relatively in public without some of the ramifications that the ones that came before you had suffered... And people that go are saying hey I may or may not like this event, but this is who I am and I'm not ashamed to go out in public and be who I am; whether it's dancing, talking to others or if you feel "free" enough, throw on some silly outfit and have yourself a good time. Terrance

It's gonna rain all weekend here and I'm sure there's gonna be a lot of accidents because these people fly down these highways regardless of the condition of the roads. But it's better than snow; I've put my 30 years of snow-filled winters and I don't want to see another flake again! Terrance

These days pride events are mostly gatherings with music, entertainment and in some cities, carnival rides! There are also booths with various gay resources, like youth groups, social clubs for people that don't like to frequent bars, health information, etc. Depending on which city you go to, your experience will be different. The bigger cities, such as San Francisco, New York, and even Chicago have some of the best events. I've been to a few in Chicago and I've always had a great time and met some interesting people. One year in Chicago, I remember my best friend and I wore matching black shirts that said "Looking for something in black?", and we spent the rest of the day walking around talking with cute guys that responded "Oh yeah. I'm looking for something..." I may try to go to New york this year, since I know a few people up there. The biggest surprise one year was finding out my boss at one of the companies I used to work at was gay. I saw him at the event with his "husband" of 10 years. Of course the biggest part are the parties. You do get at some of the largest events world-renowned djs spinning; it's not so much a big deal in South Florida (besides most prides in FL suck a$$ anyway), since we get them most of the time but other places would be a be draw. Of course you have you outrageous ones there that you have to stare and laugh at. But I got irked when a straight toothless old woman tried to hit on me! Why does the weirdest stuff happen to me? I would suggest at least once in your life to go to one of bigger cities for a pride event, it's almost like going to gay mecca! Terrance

What is my opinion on drugs? Very high And how do I stand on prostitution? I don't stand on it, I lay on it. (had to quote one of my favorite comedians) Not to sound "age-ist", it's a sad thing these days when minors are talking about what is everyone's opinion on taking drugs. Like wine, certain substances does have medicinal purposes, like marijuana. People with certain illnesses take it to lessen the side effects of other drugs they are taking or for pain management. But others have a potential for addiction, or dangerous in their use that most likely justifies their need for being controlled or outlawed. Crystal meth is a good diet aid for some, but that addiction will kick your tail. I'm joking btw--although you can tell people are addicted on that stuff from the "slimming" effect it has on them. I think it comes down to using it responsibly, whether it's that occasional pot puff or not buying that 4th vodka and cranberry. But there are certain drugs you just leave alone. Terrance