Sexual Orientation

[bert425]

I don't have a girl/boyfriend at this moment, but I don't really care about that now.

 

you're only 20.

 

plenty of time

[GayCoasterGuy]

^Got that right! When I came out at 20 (I'm 39 now), I never knew it would be so difficult to find a good guy (that I like and am compatible with). I figured "ok, I'm out, now I will have a boyfriend and live happily ever after." I'm so happy with the progress us GLBT folks have made... it makes it easier to find a good partner for the younger generation. For everyone I guess. I know I'll find a good one; good things come to those who wait

[John_RN]

Gosh when I came out at 19-20 years old the last thing I wanted was a serious relationship. For me, it was all about exploring this new life that I had been so scared to explore before. The clubs, the new friends, and the new experiences. Don't get me wrong, I had my share of guys I "connected with" but at the age of 20 I wasn't ready to settle down. My longest relationship back then lasted maybe 6-10 months. I was blessed though to have a great core group of friends/co-workers at the hospital I worked so I was never sucked into the stereotypical going to the clubs every night, drugs, and unprotected sex thing that seemed to plague some of my other friends who were also just coming out into the gay scene.

 

Then of course, after losing my mom to cancer when I was 24, I started to review my life and finally realize what I wanted. Met a great guy and here we are 10 years later and I could not imagine my life without him.

[alilstronger]

I must be weird. I came out at 17 and wanted a serious relationship ever since then. I knew for a long time before I came out that I was gay so I was completely 100% content with meeting someone and being with someone forever. But than again I am a HUGE romantic and I wear my heart on my sleeve.

 

Now that I am 27 I would LOVE to finally meet someone and settle down. It's just finding someone willing to put up with my romantic sappy self who happens to be obsessed with roller coasters and chick flicks

[SuperShawn]

^ Can totally relate to having a hard time finding someone who wants to settle down. As a bit of a generalization it seems most guys in the 25-29 range are 1) in a relationship or 2) just got out of a serious one and are not ready for another. Like I'm not one to go hunting for love but I am trying to find something, that being said I have a date Thursday for the first time in 3 years so this should be interesting.....

[GayCoasterGuy]

Some of us are more hard-wired for "nesting/monogamy" and some of us aren't. And of course, that can change as time goes on (both ways). The bars I was hanging out at weren't the best places to find a stable boyfriend when I came out, and there weren't many other places for out gay folks to hang out (things were different in the early 90s, even in the big University town of Champaign-Urbana, Illinois). All these years later of different quality dating and short-term boyfriends, I'm still looking for that one good catch

[alilstronger]

^ Can totally relate to having a hard time finding someone who wants to settle down. As a bit of a generalization it seems most guys in the 25-29 range are 1) in a relationship or 2) just got out of a serious one and are not ready for another. Like I'm not one to go hunting for love but I am trying to find something, that being said I have a date Thursday for the first time in 3 years so this should be interesting.....

 

 

I totally agree! All I want is one person!! I always get the ones I do not want it seems or there is no connection. I won't date someone simply because they are nice to me. I want to feel a true connection.

[John_RN]

^ Can totally relate to having a hard time finding someone who wants to settle down. As a bit of a generalization it seems most guys in the 25-29 range are 1) in a relationship or 2) just got out of a serious one and are not ready for another. Like I'm not one to go hunting for love but I am trying to find something, that being said I have a date Thursday for the first time in 3 years so this should be interesting.....

 

Ooooooooo I hope it goes well for you!!!! Let us know!

[jmicha]

When I first came out I was mostly under the 'take what I can get' impression at first. I started doing more things associated with gay culture such as going to gay bars, befriending drag queens, etc. and felt really happy about being out. My best friend had a friend who I met and started seeing casually and over the course of that month I very quickly realized I didn't want casual. That was about 4 years ago when I had just turned 20. I met several guys and went on several dates in the following years but was never really interested in any of the guys I met so they rarely lasted longer than a date or two. Then this past summer I met someone through a friend who I've come to really like and enjoy spending time with. It has had its ups and downs as any relationship will, but it has been really good for me. I've learned a lot about myself in the ensuing 8 months and am excited about where things go one way or the other.

 

The point of all this being, try different things out when you first come out. I'm not saying go crazy and fall into bad habits, but just explore a little. It helps you find who you are and what you want and, as cliche as this sounds, when the time is right the right person will come around. I'm still waiting to see if the guy I'm seeing turns out to be 'the one' since it is still too early to be able to really know that, but I'm excited to find out

[Nrthwnd]

I figured this was the best place to 'announce' it...

 

Happy Anniversary to Me and My David!

 

Celebrating (wait for it) 41 Years together!

 

And we haven't knifed each other.....yet.

 

(And Happy Earth Day today, too!)

Me and David last year at our annual queer film fest, Out On Screen. (Just before I went to China with TPR.) Yay us!

[bert425]

^^ Congrats!

 

 

ya'll should have rolled around in the dirt in celebration of Earth Day

[Nrthwnd]

^ LOL, we have our ways. Thanks.

[GayCoasterGuy]

^^^Congrats guys! Many more many more

[Nrthwnd]

^ Thanks.

 

He's my George. I'm his Martha.

 

It's a perfect fit, lol!

[John_RN]

WOW!!!! HUGE congrats to you guys!!!!

[alilstronger]

I figured this was the best place to 'announce' it...

 

Happy Anniversary to Me and My David!

 

Celebrating (wait for it) 41 Years together!

 

And we haven't knifed each other.....yet.

 

(And Happy Earth Day today, too!)

 

Congrats!!

 

I don't dwell on it but I would love to meet someone and finally be with someone.

[Nrthwnd]

^ And it feels very bizarre to admit this, but

I had had two lovers before I met David!

But they obviously never worked out, like this one has.

 

It's all accidental, as far as I'm concerned.

Where and when you least expect it to happen.... it does!

[alilstronger]

^ True, very true. Seeing happy couples like you guys gives me hope though

[B&MBoy1982]

^ You're a cutie, surprised no one has snatched you up yet.

 

I'll be your "coaster boyfriend"! (Can't be your real boyfriend, I've been claimed.)

[alilstronger]

^ You're a cutie, surprised no one has snatched you up yet.

 

I'll be your "coaster boyfriend"! (Can't be your real boyfriend, I've been claimed.)

 

You're sweet! I think I look pretty average honestly. Sure, you can definitely be my coaster BF!

[John_RN]

^ You're a cutie, surprised no one has snatched you up yet.

 

I'll be your "coaster boyfriend"! (Can't be your real boyfriend, I've been claimed.)

 

I was thinking the same thing!

[Nrthwnd]

^ Ooooh get a room, you three!

[B&MBoy1982]

^ You're a cutie, surprised no one has snatched you up yet.

 

I'll be your "coaster boyfriend"! (Can't be your real boyfriend, I've been claimed.)

 

I was thinking the same thing!

 

OH NO YOU DIDN'T!

 

* bobs and weaves *

 

I SEEN HIM FIRST!

[GayCoasterGuy]

^I seen him first first

[bert425]

You're sweet! I think I look pretty average honestly. Sure, you can definitely be my coaster BF!

 

um. . ."average"?

 

no.

 

way above.

 

(not that it matters, as it's really what's inside that counts. . . . but no way you are "average".

 

try adding "above" before that. . . .

 

 

you look "above average". . . .

 

ok, yeah, that works.

 

 

 

 

 

I feel like we're playing the Dating game!. . . we should get you on "Baggage". . .LOVE that show